People who are diagnosed with mesothelioma – or any other type of cancer – frequently experience feelings of fear and of being overwhelmed and alone. They often wonder how they will cope with the challenges that lie ahead of them, and it can be difficult to discuss these fears with the people closest to them.
This is completely natural. The fact is however that you are not alone, and there are many others out there who are sharing the same experience – and not o few who have either survived it, or are living with it.
What Is a Cancer Support Group?
A cancer support group consists of people suffering from similar conditions. There are cancer support groups in nearly every city and community as well as on the World Wide Web. These support groups meet regularly in order to discuss their fears and concerns about the disease, its treatments and the effects on the members and their families, as well as coping strategies.
Why Should I Join One?
Your oncologist will tell you that dealing effectively with the emotional and psychological aspects of their condition is as important to successful treatment as dealing with the medical and physical side. S/he may even assign you to a support group as part of your treatment plan.
A cancer support group can provide a safe environment where cancer patients and survivors alike can speak candidly about their fears, difficulties and other challenges involved. Members of support groups are often able to educate one another on dealing with emotional issues as well as managing side effects and living as normally as possible despite the disease.
When one is diagnosed with cancer, it has a tremendous affect on family and friends as well. Family life can suffer major disruptions – not only because of treatment schedules, but also the tremendous financial burden placed on them by the only industrialized nation (the U.S.) whose government refuses to extend the right of health care to all of its citizens as it continues to protect the interests of the wealthy private insurers to whom profitability, stock price, large CEO salaries and shareholder dividends far outweigh human needs.
These are the issues frequently discussed among members of cancer support groups. In fact, there are support groups especially for the friends and families of cancer patients. However, virtually all cancer support groups encourage participation by friends and family members.
Where To Find Support Groups
As cancer now affects one out of every four people in the U.S., there is no shortage of organizations offering support groups for cancer patients. If your oncologist has not already directed you to one (such groups are often sponsored through hospitals), a good place to start is online at the National Cancer Institute website. This organization offers a fact sheet which can be downloaded for free at http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/support/organizations. You can also order it from the Cancer Information Service at 1 (800) 4CANCER.
As mentioned earlier, your oncologist can refer you to a cancer support group, and information is usually available through hospital staff members such as nurses and social workers. In fact, most hospitals maintain a social services department where you can find details on groups in your community such as when and where meetings are held, the size of the group (some prefer the relative anonymity of a larger group, while others may benefit from the intimacy of a smaller one), and the specific issues discussed.
Types of Support Groups
You will find many different types of cancer support groups available. Many groups have members with all types of cancer, while others focus around a particular form of the disease, such as mesothelioma, or breast or prostate cancer. There are groups for the general population as well as those for people of a specific age group or gender. For example, support groups for victims of childhood cancer or teens are common. A particular group may discuss all aspects of the disease, while others focus on specific topics such as treatment issues, or maintaining a normal life while dealing with cancer.
Sadness and grief are a natural part of suffering from a potentially fatal disease. Therapy groups, often facilitated by mental health professionals, can be of great help in this regard. If your family and friends are participating in a support group as well, you may wish to choose a group in which cancer patients meet separately from friends and family members, or one in which everyone meets together.
Finally, there are support groups online that meet over the Internet. Meetings take place in virtual “chat rooms,” through electronic bulletin boards and moderated discussions, and via e-mail. The advantage to online support groups is that they are available twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. They are also ideal for cancer patients who have difficulties traveling.
There are two distinct disadvantages to online support groups. One is that it is often a poor substitute for genuine human contact. Even if this is not a problem for someone, the fact remains that the Internet is a place where people are not always who they seem to be. Any information you receive online should be discussed with your oncologist.
It is a good idea to visit a few different groups in order to find one with which you are most comfortable. Also be advised that while most groups accept members free of charge, some require the payment of a small fee, which typically goes toward rental of the meeting space or facilitator remuneration (1).
Finding a Local Support Group
Here is a partial listing of cancer support groups throughout the U.S., listed alphabetically by state and city. The oncology department of most local hospitals and university medical centers can also refer you to a support group.
CITY AND STATE |
SUPPORT GROUP NAME |
CONTACT INFO |
Tucson, AZ |
Cancer Care of Southern Arizona |
Lynn Johnson |
Tuscon, AZ |
Sunstone Resource Center at Tucson Medical Center |
Hellene Rothstein |
Fontana, CA |
Kaiser Permanente Fontana Medical Center |
Sandy Luna |
Los Angeles, CA |
Jonsson Comprehensive Cancer Center |
Tom Pier, MSW |
Newport Beach, CA |
Hoag Cancer Center |
Sian Wing |
Orange, CA |
St. Joseph Hospital Regional Cancer Center |
Pam Matten, RN |
Rancho Mirage, CA |
Eisenhower Lucy Curci Cancer Center |
Pam van der Nagel |
Redondo Beach, CA |
The Wellness Community |
Tom May |
Sacramento, CA |
UC Davis Medical Center |
General Information |
San Francisco |
UC San Francisco Comprehensive Cancer Center |
Barbara Buckley |
Walnut Creek, CA |
The Wellness Community |
Judy Blazin |
Denver, CO |
Rocky Mountain Cancer Centers |
Susan Ash-Lee |
New Haven, CT |
McGivney Center for Cancer Care |
Rosemary Spinelli-Reyes |
Norwalk, CT |
Cancer Care of Connecticut |
Sandy Tripoli |
Newark, DE |
Helen F. Graham Cancer Center |
General Information |
Ft. Lauderdale, FL |
Gilda’s Club South Florida |
Karen Hansen |
Safety Harbor, FL |
Mease Countryside Hospital |
General Information |
Sarasota, FL |
The Wellness Community |
Dr. John Kleinbaum |
Tampa, FL |
Moffitt Cancer Center |
Cynthia Shimizu |
Atlanta, GA |
St. Joseph’s Cancer Center |
Tom Simon |
Atlanta, GA |
St. Joseph’s Cancer Center |
Renee Sevy |
Savannah, GA |
Summit Cancer Care |
Barbara McLaughlin |
Evanston, IL |
Evanston Hospital |
General Information |
Hinsdale, IL |
Wellness House |
Marnie McHale |
Maywood, IL |
Cardinal Bernardin Cancer Center |
Jenny Abrams |
Springfield, IL |
Simmons Cooper Cancer Institute |
Beth Phelps, MS, APN-C |
Winfield, IL |
Central DuPage Hospital |
Pat Mellinger |
Fort Wayne, IN |
Women’s Cancer Center |
Linda Jordan |
Pikeville, KY |
Pikeville Methodist Hospital |
Shirley Coleman, RN |
South Portland, ME |
The Cancer Community Center |
Chris Robbins, RN |
Baltimore, MD |
Hopewell Cancer Support |
Carole Sharp |
Silver Springs, MD |
Holy Cross Hospital |
Joyce Wonders |
Newton, MA |
The Wellness Community of Greater Boston |
Abe Feingold |
Detroit, MI |
Karmanos Cancer Institute Patient & Family Services |
General Information |
Royal Oak, MI |
Gilda’s Club |
Joe Perry |
Minneapolis, MN |
Women’s Cancer Resource Center |
Lisa Simer |
St. Paul, MN |
Regions Hospital |
Scott Cruise, LICSW |
St. Paul, MN |
Regions Hospital |
Connie Berchem |
St. Paul, MN |
United Hospital |
Leona Stevens, RN |
Robbinsdale, MN |
North Memorial Medical Center |
Karen Assel, BSN, RN |
Columbia, MO |
Reynolds Alumni Center at University of Missouri |
Christine Chang |
Morristown, NJ |
Morristown Memorial Hospital Carol G. Simon Cancer Ctr. |
Catherine Owens, MSW |
Mount Holly, NJ |
Fox Chase Virtua Health at Virtual Memorial Hospital |
Doug Marshall |
Vorhees, NJ |
Cooper University Hospital (CINJ at Cooper) |
General Information |
New York City, NY |
Gilda’s Club |
General Information |
New York City, NY |
Memorial Sloane Kettering Discussion Group |
Elizabeth Peabody |
New York City, NY |
Memorial Sloan Kettering Educational Sessions |
Barbara Massina, LCSW |
New York City, NY |
MSKCC Journey to "Normal" - Psychological Adjustment |
Jack Burkhalter, PhD |
New York City, NY |
NYU Cancer Institute |
Leora Lowenthal, LCSW |
New York City, NY |
New York Hospital |
Maria Carrera, NP |
Woobury, NY |
CancerCare, Long Island |
Win Boerkel |
Greenville, NC |
American Cancer Society McConnell-Raab Hope Lodge |
Teresa L. Parent, RN |
Winston-Salem, NC |
Cancer Services |
Nedra |
Blue Ash, OH |
Lynn Stern Center |
General Information |
Cleveland, OH |
The Cleveland Clinic |
Nancy Fenner |
Columbus, OH |
The Wellness Community |
Tom May |
Toledo, OH |
The Victory Center |
Kelly S. Brooks, RN |
Eugene, OR |
Cancer Care Resources |
Pat Greene |
Philadelphia, PA |
The Wellness Community |
Kathleen Coyle, MSW |
Pittsburgh, PA |
UOP Medical Center Shadyside Hospital |
Bonnie Shields |
Nashville, TN |
Gilda’s Club |
General Information |
Houston, TX |
M.D. Anderson Cancer Center |
Mary Ann Bassham |
Houston, TX |
M.D. Anderson Cancer Center |
Annemarie Redelmeier |
San Antonio |
Brooke Army Medical Center |
Don Laughery |
Falls Church, VA |
Life With Cancer Family Center |
Oncology Counselors |
Washington DC |
Lombardi Cancer Center at Georgetown U. Hospital |
Mary Kardauskas |
Seattle, WA |
Northwest Hospital |
Cathy Bjornstaard, MA |
Madison, WI |
University of Wisconsin Cancer Center |
Thersea Woods, PhD |